November 29th, 2010
|03:03 am - Thanksgiving Update|
The three of us had a lovely time over at the group Thanksgiving we go to at hereville, skelkins, & alephnul's home, we were joined by lupagreenwolf, onyxrising, my dear friend Aaron, and approximately 7 or 8 others. Between my dairy allergy and amberite's recent gluten allergy, our household is now clearly the folks with food-allergies. I made cornbread stuffing using homemade wheat free cornbread (in half I used sweet Italian sausage, instead of the recommended spicy sausage, and in the other half, I made a veggie version using apples, both were delicious. I also made a wonderful pumpkin banana meringue pie, replacing ½ cup white sugar with 1/3 cup of brown sugar – there's pretty much no modern US dessert that doesn't benefit from having the sugar reduced by 25-60%. The result was a very nice day.
Then, on Saturday, amberite and I went to a smaller gathering of our less social friends, like xtricks, athenian_abroad, where we were joined by Aaron, and a couple of other people. That time, I made a version of the same stuffing using gluten free frozen waffles (both Aaron and Alice are allergic to wheat), because Alice wanted something that tasted more like traditional bread stuffing, and the result was very good indeed. There was some especially fascinating conversations that evening, with discussions ranging from paying for creative content like movies and tv show in ways that actually encourage quality, to the plight of newspapers, to a complex and both illuminating and occasionally a bit uncomfortable late night discussion by Alice, Aaron, xtricks, and I about our various patterns of social interaction, which also included discussions of power and privilege. I've had a number of recent discussions that have shown me how growing up culturally Jewish can often train people in social patterns that are very different from those found in Anglo-American white culture, which is oddly surprising given how many people who have grown up Jewish I've had as close friends over the years. In any case, another very nice evening, and a fridge well stocked with leftovers. I hope everyone else's holidays were as good.
Current Mood: pleased
|Date:||November 30th, 2010 06:39 am (UTC)|| |
I'm very curious about your conversation about patterns of social interactions. Do you feel like sharing any more details or conclusions?
|Date:||November 30th, 2010 06:49 am (UTC)|| |
There were several semi-related topics, the easiest on to explain was the AJ & Aaron look at social situations and consider what other people want and what they (AJ & Aaron) can do. I look at social situations and consider what I want and what other people are doing and could be doing.
Also, how Aaron and AJ are ultimately social performers, and attract attention (in part, this seems to be because both of them inherently expect to attract attention, and so attempt to manage this in a positive fashion), while Daire does his best to actively avoid attention, and I am somewhere in between, but rather closer to Daire's pattern.
Another part of the discussion was around aspects of social interaction related to Daire & I being from white (and thus dominant) culture, while Aaron very clearly grew up as a minority, and while AJ didn't, she grew up with some family traits that come from being a minority.