September 16th, 2011
|02:17 am - CTT & Visit|
Yesterday, teaotter and I arrived back from the East Coast (amberite was sadly too busy to come with us). We went to the Crosssing the Thresholds otherkin gather at Four Quarters Farm, and also stayed with and spent a lot of time around our dear, dear friends laurelindel, lyssabard, & tlttlotd, who are the only other triad we know of who are living together – they just finished moving in together and were still unpacking.
CTT was amazing (as always), and made even better by the fact that the weather was perfect - highs in the high 70s, lows around 60, and no rain (at least while I was there), so I avoided shivering in my tent like I did the last two times I went, when lows were in the 40s. I spent much time talking with both rialian and waterfire741, wonderful but shorter chats with many other people, and a very long conversation about various metaphysical topics with mieva_r, who is a very nifty person, a friend, and also someone who I would very happily take on as a student for occult studies if she lived closer. The only downside to CTT was that the gather did not rent the kitchen, which meant cooking via camp stoves and portable electric devices, but we brought a rice cooker and boil in bag Indian food, and so while not elegant, meals were at least acceptable. As always, I considered not going, because camping is not really my preferred environment, but also as always, the people and various events, like again dancing around a fire to some excellent drumming more than made up for that.
Afterwards, spending time with Jan, and Lyssa, and Bryce was both wonderful and fascinating. One of the more problematic aspects of polyamory is that lack of visible models – all of my early images of it came from various SF & fantasy novels I read as a teen, and while I have known many people who were part of a couple who had an open relationship, I know few stable poly groupings and had never visited another poly household before. Actually spending time with another live-in triad who are also happy and compatible was wonderful, as was simply spending time with three wonderful people who I love deeply.
While there, we also watched Steven Moffat's 2007 Jekyll miniseries, which was impressive excellent up to the last 5 minutes, and then merely became a bit cheap and ineffective rather than terrible. James Nesbitt & Gina Bellman were both truly excellent, and while I found Moffat's Sherlock to be lovely, it was also very deeply flawed in a number of ways, and ways that Jekyll was not, which perhaps gives me hope for the next season of Sherlock.
In any case, I dislike traveling, especially by plane, but going to an amazing event and then spending several days with people I care deeply about more than made up for this dislike.
Current Mood: pleased
"Husband...I have questions." Jekyll is fantastic.
|Date:||September 16th, 2011 06:37 pm (UTC)|| |
One of the more problematic aspects of polyamory is that lack of visible models – all of my early images of it came from various SF & fantasy novels I read as a teen, and while I have known many people who were part of a couple who had an open relationship, I know few stable poly groupings and had never visited another poly household before.
This is a tad depressing, especially considering you live in Portland. :(
|Date:||September 16th, 2011 10:07 pm (UTC)|| |
Open relationships are relatively easy and simple, especially for people raised with the assumption of couples. Triads, quads, and other live-in committed arrangements are inherently more complex - a triad effectively involves 4 relationships rather than simply 1 (counting the relationship between all three people as well as all 3 pair bonds). Also, they are considerably more public & obvious, which can cause various social problems (or at least the assumption of potential problems) for lots of people.